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Noxious Virility

Noxious virility is a term I made up to describe a particular style of manhood that gets tossed around a lot these days. I’ve paraphrased the term in question because I haven’t thought of a better name for it, yet I feel the concept is accurate and still a crucial issue for us. I feelContinue reading “Noxious Virility”

Take the Trash Out

I worked fifteen years as a therapist within several different community mental health agencies. The first twelve of those years I spent working with convicted sex offenders of various ages. My first four years as a therapist I worked exclusively with adolescent boys, roughly from ages fourteen to nineteen. I observed firsthand how warped powerContinue reading “Take the Trash Out”

Couch Time!

I have decided to go back to therapy after really taking stock of the last three years. The previous three years led me to take stock of the previous twenty-five years. While I have prided myself on being reliable, I have also been prone to some wacky and unpredictable behavior. This did not start threeContinue reading “Couch Time!”

Accepting Deficits Hidden Desperately

I had this conversation with my Dad the other day about ADHD. I told him I had been diagnosed by a psychiatrist at age 34 and didn’t think much of it at the time. This was likely some sort of ADHD response as well. I explained to him what ADHD was and how I haveContinue reading “Accepting Deficits Hidden Desperately”

ADHD-All Decisions Hold Discoveries

You can guess what this post will be about by the title. For everyone who decided to go for it, despite what experience has tried to show you, maybe I can be a beacon for you. Don’t put yourself in unwinnable situations just to prove you can measure up to some ambiguous standard. It doesn’tContinue reading “ADHD-All Decisions Hold Discoveries”

This Does Not Mean What You Think It Means…

One of the many things I have realized this year is that I don’t believe I’ve ever truly experienced grief. Or I’ve never allowed myself to experience grief. I truly feel this is hard for me to say accurately. I didn’t experience grief when my mother died in 1998 because we had a terrible relationship.Continue reading “This Does Not Mean What You Think It Means…”

Burnout Turnabout

As many of us are experiencing trying times right now, I wanted to address the experience of burnout. My experience of this is pre-COVID and specific to mental health and human services. The levels of burnout described by first responders and medical personnel exceeds this and is of another level I have never experienced. IContinue reading “Burnout Turnabout”

So I Turned Myself To Face Me…Part 2

This resumes where Part 1 left off. I encourage everyone to read both parts for the sake of continuity. I found a job as a coach with a stop smoking tobacco program and left my position in the marijuana industry. Training for this position began at the beginning of March. This job seemed like anContinue reading “So I Turned Myself To Face Me…Part 2”

So I Turned Myself To Face Me…

When I became serious about starting my own coaching practice during the summer of 2020, it was after I had been undergoing serious personal transitions since I left my therapist position in early 2018. This started a crazy, upside-down, emotionally wrenching time for me. I had been a therapist for 15 years at this point,Continue reading “So I Turned Myself To Face Me…”

Compassion Ration

My observation over the years has been many people learn compassion after experiencing a lack of it when they needed it, I have met a precious few who come by compassion naturally and some whose families taught them compassion because it was highly valued to them. These are the exceptions however, at least from myContinue reading “Compassion Ration”